3) It's very interesting to poke and prod the world around you, to see what types of reactions you will get and learn about who will tolerate certain behaviors and who will not. Unfortunately, it's even more interesting and seemingly angstful to pout and walking around being melancholy when said poking and prodding of the external world does not equate into the desired results.
2) Actually, being angstful really is the best part of being a teenager. Very emo, gets a lot of attention and causes concerns to the adults who love her. Plus speaking with dripping sarcasm and boastful disrespect is the ultimate way to express ones total dissapointment and apathy with the world around him.
1) And the #1 reason why teens are total flippin' brats? Cuz they just can't help it. Those hormones pulsing through their blood streams, coupled with the realities of life they are suddenly facing in a fast and furious manner can only equal one thing: Grouchy, snotty, rude and impatient people. Oh and people growing at impossible rates out of their existing bodies into adult bodies, with adult like urges and adult like behaviors...but not quite adult like yet. And everyone is SO controlling and mean and it doesn't matter and the whole world totally sucks and it'd be just a lot better if you weren't always telling me what to do. Ooops...got sidetracked there.
Anyway, it's not easy being green...I mean a teen and probably not one adult out out there would go back and do it again. I sure as hell wouldn't but what I do know...is that this boy I am raising is such a lovely spirit and he has much to give the world, someday he'll know that I DO understand alot of his fussing and cussing about life and how unfair it all seems...AND I know he can't help it cuz he's one large semi-gilatenous hormone ready to burst through into the big scary world and it IS alot of pressure. I know and I understand and I love you. But I still have to tell you take out the garbage and do your homework and scold you when you are nasty to me b/c if I don't...I'd be a really shitty Mom and trust me...that's the last thing I want to be and I have to start somewhere. Right? I know it doesn't seem like it now, but I do cherish and love you and I do want you to be happy. But that doesn't mean I have to let you treat me and others like crap. We ALL have to start somewhere.
Bless ya kid, it's gonna be alright...just breathe and give everyone a chance to catch up with you.
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I always used to tell Kody that if he wanted to be in a funk that was his choice and I'd respect it - but that he didn't need to take it out on me. I asked him once how he'd feel if I subjected him to all the stress from my day, and the pressure of bills and life... how he'd like bearing that brunt of that - he started to just go to his room when he was cranky and finally got into the mode where he'd talk to me about things that were bothering him.
I was much easier to converse if he knew it was his choice, not me pushing. He liked that control, so I gave it to him. Teenagers do have a lot of hormones, but the should never think that is an excuse for disrespecting everyone around them.
Hang in there, you two will get through it!
Agreed, that's pretty much what happened last night...I just got to the point of saying
"Listen kiddo, I understand you are having a tough time right now but it is NOT ok to talk to me like that. Please go to your room until you can talk to me in an appropriate manner."
His mood lasted most of the rest of the day, but he was at least keeping his snide comments to himself.
What I would like to see is more of him feeling like he can talk to me and less of him feeling like I am the enemy. sigh. Luckily, my skin is gotten a bit thicker:)
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