It's Good To Be Drama Free

We had a busy weekend, we'd intended to be busier but got somewhat distracted. Chance bumped into a friend of his downtown a few weeks back, we'll call him Dude X and Dude X has a wife, so naturally her name would be Mrs. X. C mentioned the encounter to me, but I didn't really think much about it except that this particular couple are from C's old school crew, which is always a good opportunity to get the goods on C's life pre-Mango/Maxter.

So this weekend, we are working on the basement and what not and C said, "Hey I'm going to go grab Dude X and we'll come back have a few beers and he'll be on his way." I thought, ok cool, C's been working hard and I'm sure could use a little time with the guys. Let's just say it turned into a bit more activity then that and Dude X brought Mrs. X and next thing you know we are all having quite a bit of fun.

We invited the crew, a few showed, a few didn't. I was happy to see Matt (we needed a good sit down) and Helen (the red looks so good on you girl) and another long time friend of mine came over for a bit and it was a pretty wonderful evening over all. Oh yeah, and J popped in and forgot his cell phone AGAIN! But I was happy to see him, he's just a pup but he's a good kid I think. Trying hard to be anyway and that's a good start.

However, there was one fundamental aspect to the evening that made me the happiest of all. That night, I saw the range of drama's occurring all around. Lover, friendship, sister, brother, children, work, the whole gambit. Some times it cannot be helped, relationships so often require some mucking about to figure out how it all works. And even when it "works" sometimes people just fuss and nitpick with one another.

But I looked at C and thought to myself, It's Good To Be Drama Free. Even if it's just for a minute.

C and I have managed to get our lives into an ever healthier place, reaching different levels of growth within ourselves and with one another. Our love, trust and ability to cohabitate peacefully has grown exponentially in the past few months. 2006 started in a pretty crazy way, due in part because we weren't able to draw boundaries where needed and also because I think C & I both were pretty overwhelmed with all the changes and were sort of functioning the best we could, but I'm not sure how connected we were during those first few months at the new place. It's a lot, a big transition.

This is not to say that C and I will never have another argument, find ourselves really frustrated with each other or our situation, etc...etc...it's part of the deal. But for this moment in time, I found myself so happy within the core of myself about the work we've been doing, the decisions we've made about our lives, our health, our love. Just happy that Chance was there, that we'd some how find each other in all the madness.

One thing that was made brilliantly clear to me this weekend is that who you have in your life does matter, their energy, their activities, the entire interaction...it matters. It matters because the energy that surrounds the spirits in your every day experience can be profoundly positive and emphasize progress and some times they are not. What I saw this weekend enforced for me that this life I have is incredibly valuable. The love I share with my child and my partner, the love they have for me, the choices we are making in an effort to become some thing more, to live with integrity, to live with passion and compassion. It is not all for not, it is worthwhile. And this whole experience is much to short to be unhappy or in a bad way, much to short.

So, I will take this as a lesson learned in living in the drama-free realm as much as is humanly possible. And since we are all prone to it from time to time, I will reserve what I saw this weekend for those days when I find myself barking at Chance over something petty or hounding Max for the umpteenth time to clean his room. Or beating myself down because I made a mistake. Because there is so much to be thankful for, so much. SO MUCH!