Distraction

Distraction

It’s a rainy, cool Monday morning in Denver Colorado and I’m distracted beyond distraction. The rain, the migraine that keeps threatening me, the man child, the Pumpkin head…aw, so much to think about on a busy Monday morning. I’m looking to the heavens for a little direction and focus, cuz so far it’s just not on the menu this morning.

Max is home again and that feels solid and lovely. He continues to grow into such a fine human being, I’m very proud. He’s too thin and I can tell he’s not been getting enough rest, but otherwise, he seems pretty well over all and ready to embark on the next phase in his life. The drive itself to Casper and back went off without a hitch (save some fog and icy roads on the way up) and with a little help from Max’s friends we were able to manage all of this things in both of our cars without any trouble at all. Seeing Max’s dad is always awkward, Max’s friends commented on the tension between us. That’s too bad, but really, I don’t hold any need to make friends with this person. Our child is a legal adult, sans babies or marriage or medical issues…I doubt I’ll have to interact much with this person in the future and that’s ok with me. I try not to judge the relationship they seem to have forged. I do feel a little protective of Max in this regard as I fear perhaps his father views him more as a party buddy then his child as I am all to familiar with this approach to parenting– it’s not quite what I’d had in mind for them, but hey…that’s between them and I am choosing to keep my mouth shut and remain grateful for the fact that Max seems to have found what he was looking for by going out there in the first place. Max has the whole world in front of him now and I’m so very proud of him – we’ll see how the future unfolds!

Losing Pumpkin this weekend is clearly on the heart and mind. I am at peace with her passing in the sense that this is how life is supposed to be - long and filled with lots of love, experiences and warmth– her actual passing was very peaceful. It was quiet, I held her close to me as she went. She was not in any pain, I made sure of that. I had some left over pain meds from a previous procedure and I knew in my heart she was on her way out and I saw no reason not to give this to her if it made her more comfortable, it may have even speeded up the process a little, I’m not sure. I feel a little strange about it, but I know if I’d taken her to the 24hr emergency care clinic, they would have done the same thing. There was no saving her and I am not sure I would have even if there was. That little girl lived a long life, far more then the 9 she was originally given and she’s not been herself for about a week now so I think I instinctually knew it was coming. I had hoped it wouldn’t be the first thing Max encountered upon his return home, but I have come to learn that males simply aren’t not the emotional creatures that we are. His attachment to Pumpkin hasn’t been significant and I don’t feel he will equate his homecoming with her death. I’m sure he’ll remember that she passed and my tears, but I think he’s so focused on his own journey that it’s something of a relief just to have the trip be over with and life moving forward. Pumpkins passing is a bit of a relief to be perfectly blunt, I have been praying I would not have to make the decision to euthanize her, I simply have not been able to do it with her up until this point and really, it all went so smoothly, I couldn’t have asked for a better outcome given the emotion involved with the situation. I have opted to bury her up in the mountains; she loved the out doors as a younger cat. I am grateful that I could be with her in her first moments of life and during her last in leaving this world. She was definitely a character as cats go, ornery and demanding and vocal. It’s no wonder we were so bonded.

Dave has been such a wonderful support system in recent weeks. I find myself becoming more and more attached to him. He sure is a sturdy rock whenever I need him. I may just let myself fall in love with him after all.

Pray for me my friends, I now live with TWO men and I can assure you, much patience on my end will be required. Time for myself is going to be in the cards regularly. The puggies and I, we’ll be going on lots of walks I suspect. Which is good given Bailey’s little weight problem *shh don’t talk about it, she’s sensitive*

Love to you all
S

"Conversations With My 13 Year Old Self" - Pink

Conversations with my thirteen year old self
Conversations with my thirteen year old self

You're angry
I know this
The world couldn't care less
You're lonely
I feel this
And you wish you were the best
No teachers
Or guidance
And you always walk alone
You're crying
At night when
Nobody else is home

Come over here and let me hold your hand and hug you darling
I promise you that it won't always feel this bad
There are so many things I want to say to you
You're the girl I used to be
You little heartbroken thirteen year old me

You're laughing
But you're hiding
God I know that trick too well
You forget
That I've been you
And now I'm just the shell
I promise
I love you and
Everything will work out fine
Don't try to
Grow up yet
Oh just give it some time

The pain you feel is real you're not asleep but it's a nightmare
But you can wake up anytime
Oh don't lose your passion or the fighter that's inside of you
You're the girl I used to be
The pissed off complicated thirteen year old me

Conversations with my thirteen year old self
Conversations with my thirteen year old self

Until we meet again
Oh I wish you well oh
I wish you well
Little girl
Until we meet again
Oh
I wish you well
Little girl
I wish you well
Until we meet again
My little thirteen year old me

Tentative Seattle/Anacortes Itinerary

I’ve received time off and have confirmed fur baby care in my absence from 04/21/2011 – 04/23/2011. The following is my tentative schedule, barring scheduling conflicts with others and confirmation that I can stay w/ MB on Friday :)

Thursday, April 21st 2011
1) Arrive at SeaTac mid morning, pick up car
2) Lunch with HG in Seattle
3) Pikes Place Market or time w/ GramE & Grandpa (whatever works for them)
4) Head to Bellingham to chill with Kai and friends for afternoon/evening

Friday, April 22nd 2011
1) Breakfast in Bellingham
2) Time w/ GramE & Grandpa (Lunch?)
3) Deception Pass
4) Dinner/evening w/ MB

Saturday, April 23rd 2011
1) Breakfast/early brunch w/ GramE & Grandpa
2) Back to Seattle to fly home

I’m so excited! I can’t wait to see everyone!

XO

Progress.

I am making some progress on my 2011 goals list. I am in motion on getting things organized at home, which feels great. It appeals to my desire for order, plus it really does make life run a lot smoother when you know where everything is and it’s easily accessible. Plus, doing an inventory on the amount of clutter, clothes/shoes that don’t fit, etc…well that was slightly depressing (I miss some of those clothes and shoes) but gratifying nonetheless to see them in the “donate” pile. Now, it’s just a matter of two more closets and organizing the storage and voila, my home will be that much less overwhelming on the daily and much more manageable in terms of housework. There’s something about knowing that the closets are organized and clothes that don’t fit me any more or lamps that are no longer my taste are simply out of the equation.

I am seriously reconsidering joining Weight Watchers. It’s true I want to lose weight and focus on a healthier life style, but I’m not going to punish myself into submission to do so. This does not contribute to emotional health and well being, been there done that. I might have LOOKED awesome, but I didn’t FEEL awesome. No, this time I’d like to do all of this with a little less self-abuse and over restricting and focus on a macro level relationship with food, including portion control and breaking up with my sugar daddy (literally) for good. As much as I’d rather try and do this on my own, I can’t quite seem to get my ass in gear on the subject and have been going all out since the holidays and the pounds are creeping back on from my tonsil weight loss. Weight Watchers might be just the thing to get me back on track, without turning into one of those crazy people that counts every calorie and has a conniption when even one work out was missed…oh wait, that was me…7 years ago. Amazing how life circumstances change ones priorities. Anyway, along with this consideration also includes the fact that I find the whole group support piece incredible rewarding and weekly meetings for weigh-ins etc…keeps me much more accountable. I’m on the look out for a WW buddy, it would be nice if I could find someone who would commit to going to meetings with me and then working out after. Kristen and I did this together in 1998 and both lost a lot of weight and kept each other really on target. She’s not in that mindset at the moment and I respect that and I doubt I’d be able to replicate that situation with anyone (K is my bff after all, I mean, you can’t just become WW with anyone and have it work out THAT perfectly) but I’m thinking I’ll post around on the various sites and see if I can find someone who wants to commit to 3 months of WW meetings and a walk or something afterwards with me. I will start on FB, that’s probably my best chance of finding someone I already know AND local to boot. The thing about WW is that man, if you follow the program, you do find yourself losing weight AND sort of retraining your brain in the process. It’s really pretty amazing. I’m sure my doc(s) would be thrilled if I took off 30 or 40 lbs this year, as would I! I might even get a gold star 

In other news, I’m having this really amazing experience recently with my dogs. I’ve been reading up on pet massage and learning basic technique and details about how massage benefits our fur babies. In the process of applying some of these techniques and experimenting with lengths of time and what not with Bailey (who is more mature and bonded to me, therefore more willing) and Bella (when the wiggles have escaped her puppy body long enough for her attention to be focused on anything but chewing, eating and playing with toys) that they are incredibly receptive and responsive to the experience. In doing so, I find that engaging in this physical interaction with my dogs that I get into this zone, where I can literally feel the energy being exchanged between us. It’s sort of hypnotic, almost like meditation. I find the very activity, in and of itself, soothes and calms me just as much (if not more) as I hope it is doing for them. My favorite and theirs too I think, is the massaging of their ears, head, neck and upper body since I learned that pugs (and lots of dogs built similarly) tend to carry their weight in their front paws, legs and joints and therefore, a lot of their tension and energy also lives there. They really lean into it and give me lots of gratifying responses and I get this real sense of expression from them, like “ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, thank you momma!” Which I suppose appeals to the mommy in me. I used to give Max little massages after his baths as an infant and toddler with lavender oil and he would sleep….well, like babies do. Perfectly. I’ve also noticed that the puggies sleep really well after I give them there little puggy massages, with lots of happy dreams from the sounds of it. This may all sound very strange to someone on the outside, but the act of connecting with another being so lovingly and innocently really brings a lot of joy to my spirit and the intoxication of it all is not something I’ve experienced before. It’s like God connected us so that we could mirror the organic love that naturally exists in the other. They really are these kind of salt of the Earth type of creatures. Sometimes I truly believe that these animals come into our lives to remind of us how simple and available love is to us in its most pure form, if we just accept it. Maybe that’s partly why man is so bonded to their pets. It may have started out as a protective thing (dogs) or involved acts of worship or suspicion (cats) but the business of having pets in our daily lives has definitely blossomed, I think, into perhaps a sense of reconnecting to ourselves. Bella and Bailey are full of all this unbridled love and comic relief, they are so innocent, intuitive, sensitive, have no real fears. They kind of remind me perhaps of how I should love and be.

I should note that Bella is leery of Gaia, but I wouldn’t call it fear so much as lesson learned. Gaia has claws and is not afraid to use them. She is the mistress of her domain and will tolerate Bella’s tomfoolery to an extent, but testing those kitty waters could land you with a sore nose and the total humiliation of knowing that a cat just kicked your butt.

I won’t even get started on the cats. There’s no disputing the cats role in my home. They are the surveyors of all the land and royalty of the house. Gaia watches all goings on and judges accordingly. Gaia will insist you play with her when she feels like it and that you leave her alone unless she instigates interaction. Pumpkin demands and demands and demands…loudly. She’s old, she’s got that right as far as I’m concerned. Regardless, food must be present at all times (even if they aren’t hungry) and water can only be drank from the tap. That’s just the lay of the land with those two. I’ll sure miss Pumpkin when she’s gone. She slightly resembles an matted, orange striped dinosaur at the moment. We all know what happened to the dinosaurs.

More soon my friends, home awaits. Love to you all.

35

Who knew I’d even make it this far? The specters from my teens would probably tell you it’s really only by accident that I survived at all, the manic moods of my 20’s would tell you that it’s a miracle I’ve learned to sing songs that don’t involve the long blue pining away hopelessly after unobtainable loves and grieving morosely about all I didn’t have or know as a child, and my early 30’s would tell you that it was just around that I started to feel a bit more like someone I could relate to when I looked into the mirror, even though I was a goddamned mess in those early years. I might have been a mess and screwed my (and my son’s) life up righteously, but I was doing so authentically at least because one is quite raw in the throws of a mid-life crisis. Which I finally realized is exactly how you learn about who you really are, which is sometimes a frightening experience.

Here I am though, somewhat worse for wear. My health isn’t in the greatest condition (more abnormal tests, this time “women” related. Gawwh, that’s the LAST time I get an annual physical - KIDDING) and as much as I hate to admit it, it’s my own doing. Not intentionally of course, but lifestyle and the stress of recent years have taken their toll and now it’s time to pay the bill. Let’s cross our fingers and hope it can all be managed, with minimal discomfort at least.

That bothersome physical stuff aside, what I wonder is what do the next 5 years of life have in store for me before another big birthday – the big 40? Let’s make it a good stretch shall we? I’ve learned not to plan for anything and expect everything and to try and not be disappointed OR cocky about a given circumstance because life always has a sooprize in store for you, and you probably won’t see it coming. Even if you try to control everything, it’s still waiting around the corner. So why try? It’s exhausting. It might just be more exciting to roll with it on it’s own terms anyway and remain content and grateful, ever think of that? I have, but old habits die hard. I’m getting there.

I have some things I’d like to experience. Reconcilliation with Pam would be nice. I’m not going to undercut or go to great lengths to sacrifice myself in the process of attempting to do so either. I am open and willing, in time. I’d really like to do a little traveling and see more of my family and friends who live out of state. Lose some weight. Spend as much time as with Max as possible. Maybe I'll get married and run off to some other country? HA, that would be nice. The other country part *giggle*! Get the health back on track (which in spite of recent events, I feel is possible) and maybe, if I am really lucky, find my next calling in life? I don’t feel lost so much right now as I feel the winds are hinting at redirection, which they do from time to time.

We’ll see I suppose, something in me feels excited for another phase in my life. I can tell you I don’t feel 35 at all. Somehow, I doubt I will feel 40 or 45 or 50 when/if I get there either because we are all children in side. Let’s hope huh?

CHEERS TO ANOTHER YEAR!

Nobody Panic

It’s my fault, so nobody panic. Actually, it’s no one’s fault really, it’s more that I just haven’t been able to focus on it until now. Or, that it hasn’t become such an issue until now? Last year it was the tonsils. This year, it’s going to be the kidneys me thinks. Sometimes me thinks I’m mental and a total hypocondriach, it’s hard to dissect. There are considerable health issues that require attention within my own little microcosm of genetics and as much as I’d like to say it ain’t so, it is and as much as I’d like to pretend it ain’t happening, it is. So, here’s the detail, in short and as I understand it.

My recent physical indicates an increase in kidney function, high for even someone with Alports Syndrome. My most recent renal ultra-sound shows that the size and shape of my left kidney has change since the last time I had one (like 10 years ago, not such a big surprise) but it’s also something that is monitored for Alports. It is nothing to get freaked out about right now, my kidneys are still functioning, we aren’t talking dialysis or anything (yet) but it is somewhat cause for alarm because it’s a significant jump since last year and, it is common for the disease to begin progressing around my age. Though, 85% of the time, the progression is in men. Women generally only present 10-15% of the time with anything other than high protein and blood in the urine for the duration of their lifetime. I, however, do have the high blood pressure, cholestoleral, visual and hearing issues in addition to the higher kidney function levels, so…it’s possible I am part of that 10-15% of women who have Alports who may actually experience significant progression. What does this mean? It means my kidneys may gradually (or quickly) stop working, which will require dialysis and eventually transplant. It’s really that simple. The problem is, there is no real way to stop the progression once it is in motion. They can manage my blood pressure and some other things which will help, but the main way to stop it is to lose weight and take uber uber good care of myself. Dammit, I knew these extra lbs were really going to be a problem at some point. Frack.

So, there will be more monitoring, lab work and ultra sounds and office visits where I’ll be lectured about losing weight, getting active and watching my water, caffeine, alcohol and sugar intake. From here on, all we can do it monitor and hope for the best. Sigh…I guess I can do my part too. Though, it is irritating as ALL get out because there’s no real proof that watching all these things carefully and losing a bunch of weight is going to have any real affect at all. It’s sort of one of those “it is what it is” things, but on the flip side, I hardly have any reason not to right? I’m just cranky b/c it means I have to change up my routines a little – poo on that, I’m a creature of habits and rituals my friends and all of my “vices” are included in them, so tghghgbhtttttttttt! Is it terrible that I’m more cranky about the idea of having to give up my Friday night cocktails, coffee and sugar than I am about the thought of what it might do to my health if I do not? What a tangled web we weave indeed.

In the mean time, I also developed a kidney stone (related to the excess proteins) and let me tell you my friends, that is not something I wish to experience again. Promptly followed by a migraine (from the stress and exhaustion of the previous 2 days I’m sure) so I was off work for 2 days. Big big fun. I’d like to note here that for the “average” person, if you wish to avoid kidney stones…drink your water! NO COMPLAINING, just do it. I would rank passing a kidney stone up there with child birth and broken legs, and it was teeny tiny one so…yeah, just drink your water.

The past week of pondering all the implications and resulting discomfort from this new information has been stressful, but I’m managing. I cannot control it and I’m not doing myself any favors by agonizing over it. Of course, you must remember I’ve been dealing with this possibility since I was a young girl and we don’t really know what it means yet, just that we need to start keeping a closer eye on things and as I know more, I’ll let you know more. The first few days my mind did spin out of control, going directly to the most negative possible outcome and panicking and then, panicking about Max because this really causes me to consider him and how this disease will more than likely affect him as well before he’s 40. Again, there is little I can do but share with him the situation. I have offered to pay for him to see a kidney doctor in Casper, he just ignores me. *rolls eyes* STUPID MOMS! What do they know? Friggen kid. It’s like talking to turtle who thinks his shell is totally invincible. For a time, it surely is sturdy and strong, but given the proper circumstances, even a tough turtle shell can become vulnerable. Often, through no fault of the turtle’s at all and no matter what the turtle thinks in his little turtle brain, if he’s not keeping an eye on how strong his shell is, it could suddenly just fail on him and his little wiggly underbody will be totally exposed and vulnerable and needing a lot of support to stay safe. Friggen turtles.

More soon my lovely readers, and you are…lovely I mean. No worries, just prayer and love us like you always have and always do. How blessed are we?

Grumpapatamous

I am a giant grumpapatamous….hear me RAWR. Soooo skerrry, I know. I am utterly terrifying, just ask my minions (puggies.)

No really, I am a raging crab-ass at the moment. I basically feel as if I am in prison for my 8+ hours each day and it’s wearing a little thin. The environment now resembles a police state, everything is monitored and everyone is being scrutinized in detail. In return, some of us are behaving like rebellious arbitrarily defiant teenagers because we aren’t used to being treated like kindergartners. It makes me sad to think that this is the state of corporate America these days and that, I am now one of “them.” It never felt that way here before, just in the past 8 months or so. This is how it is though, that’s the reality. Fakey, fake fake FAKE! I feel no one can be trusted (except one individual) and all relationships are strained, the team has disintegrated into a free for all, every man for himself type of mentality and the irony is that we are all working harder then every and under more and more pressure every day, yet it often feels as if we are spinning in circles and end up being our own worst enemies.

I am reading a valuable book suggested by my oh so wise in the literature department (and other departments as well obviously) about working with your manager’s management style. I hope it helps. Mostly right now, it’s just fun to read on my iPad. Which, besides my puggies and basically every other thing outside of my 7 AM – 4 PM, makes me extremely happy!

On that note, we are celebrating D’s bday this weekend with his sister and some friends. I am looking forward to that. I am hoping my mood perks up, I am super low on energy as well. I am also acknowledging that perhaps some of my disdain is also the “coming down” period after all the excitement that comes from the holidays. Life is back to “normal” – ho hum – hum drum. Jeez, what a whiner I am!

One thing I know for sure is that I’d better find a way to manage this situation with a smile on my face and learn to leave it at work, or else I’m going to end up acting out or doing or saying something I regret later. I’m far too mature and professional to do something hasty, besides, I like being able to pay the bills you know. Still, it does seem I must find a different method because the current isn’t working.

RAWR.

It’s complicated!

I have a friend who is in the midst of a custody/visitation dispute that is all too familiar to this gal. It is, almost identical in nature to that of my own with my son and his biological father. It’s so similar in fact, that I can’t help but feel that this person and I are in each other’s lives to support one another through these types of things for a reason.

He’s been such a support to me in regards to my own baby daddy drama and given me great insights on the thought process of a teen age boy of a single mom as his mom was a single mother of 3 children for the duration of his childhood - brave woman! I honestly am not sure where I’d be now emotionally on the subject with out his valuable and most appreciated support.

Now, here we are, 15 months later, facing what I suspected all along would come along some day as it is the natural progression in these situations. Boy wants more interaction with father, father wants more interaction with boy, and mother is hesitant and controlling. Sound familiar? Scarily so. Mother and father in this scenario had a terribly ugly divorce, on all levels, including financially. Everyone got screwed in the situation and of course, everyone involved feels wronged in some fundamentally deep way.

It is ironic that I can now empathize with both the father and the mother in this situation. She says and does all the same things I did, motivated by protecting her bear cub. I gather that she’s grown considerably since the divorce (as 10+ years will do to a person) and only wants what is best for the kiddo. My friend constantly questions her motives (naturally, as they don’t even know each other any more) and is most certainly on the defensive. Meanwhile, boy child is in limbo while mom and dad hash it out. Good times for everyone involved. Blech.

Thankfully, I also know that my friend is a wonderfully solid and loving person. He isn’t the person she knew 10 years ago either. Certainly more stable and experienced and most definitely more disconnected from the situation between the two of them and more focused on his relationship with his son. He’s been doing his best to keep the communication open, but I know it’s been met with a lot of resistance until now. Because now, man child wants to get to know his papa more and mom is left with no choice but to give the situation a chance and see where it goes from there. All the while trying to manager her own fears. How I know difficult this is, it’s some of the most challenging situations I think life can throw at us.

This situation isn’t exactly as it was in my own in the sense that there aren’t safety issues involved here, there was never any abuse or 10 years or more at a time with zero contact and/or no child support agreements. But I can see that it doesn’t make the pain or sensitive nature of the situation any less intense. There is so much history here; so much residual hurt that it is clear that everyone involved is on edge regarding the subject.

I wish I could wave my magic wand and instill the knowledge in all parties involved that some how, it is very likely that everything will work out ok in the long run, but not without a certain degree of growing pains and agony so get ready because it’s not easy at all, but SOOOO worth it! Kids need to know where they come from, whether you agree with how things are or not, it is what it is and denying them that gets nobody anywhere. Not anywhere good anyway.

Wish him (us) luck.

2011 Goals!

I am reluctant to label this post in any way as a New Year’s Resolutions, though I suppose that’s what it most closely resembles. It is true that the New Year marks a period of reflection and retrospective insight. But for me, I’m not sure that it is any more or any less than say Max’s birthday (BIG one for me) or my own birthday or any random Sunday morning while I’m brewing my coffee for the morning, watching the squirrels in my backyard ravenously searching the yard for some glimmer of a snack that wasn’t there the night before.

I do know, however, that these are items I’ve been procrastinating for some reason or another for some time now and I feel more able and energized to address them and why not use the New Year as starting point? It’s a perfectly legitimate excuse in my book and perhaps, a fine motivator as well?

1) Organize My Life
This may seem utterly monotonous (and it is for me, I can’t even tell you) but it is absolutely necessary. Partly due to the fact that I will be officially cohabitating with another adult in less than 30 days, partly due to the fact that my living space feels a little like a tornado hit it at one point and was sort of haphazardly thrown back together and partly because I’ve just been lazy about such things and it makes my Type A cringe.

a) Sort and determine what items can be set aside for yard sale in July 2011. This includes cleaning out all closets, dressers, drawers., boxes in storage….etc and clearing out the stuff that isn’t being used! Just get rid of it!
b) Establish a solid filing system (shoving everything in a drawer DOES NOT COUNT!)
c) Work on getting into a routine that incorporates my goals for healthy cooking, exercise, hobbies, fun AND downtime.
d) Get the 1,000’s of physical photographs I have of Max, friends, family, my dad, etc….in digital form.
e) Get the 1,000’s of digital images (in addition to d above) cataloged and published.
f) Get all cd’s migrated to digital copy and cataloged.
g) Get all digital music cataloged.
h) Get all address and contact information in one central location.
i) Back up all data and files regularly to external hard drive.


2) Health & Healing
This goes without saying I suppose, but I know I have to stay conscious about these aspects of the many types of health (physical, emotional, spiritual, mental) or it falls by the wayside as I am easily distracted. This includes, but is not limited to:

a) Enjoyable physical activity 3- 5 times per week (this does not include cleaning the house!) this needs to include the puggies at least a few times a week as well, they really need exercise!
b) Dental care is a priority this year (I haven’t been able to afford it and it’s becoming increasingly necessary)
c) Focus on healthy food choices and portion control, but I refuse to diet any longer. Dieting is not living. I have a much healthier relationship with food when I’m not obsessed with every calorie, fat gram and carb that I’m putting in my mouth. When I am less obsessed, I don’t punish myself for “messing up” and feel driven to binge. I like ice cream and I’m going to eat it sometimes. I like cheese and chocolate and peanut butter, I’m going to eat it sometimes too. I like sushi and every kind of vegetable and fruit that exists and I will eat that as much as is possibly available to me. I’m tired of trying to trick my brain into thinking it’s full on foods that don’t satiate but are deemed “healthy” by the dieting community. My goal is to return to eating in the most organic sense of the word, eat when I’m hungry and eat the foods that are the best suited for my needs, which include treats now and again.
d) Staying conscious indulgences and over-indulgences (sugars, alcohol, caffeine, the occasional cigar, etc….)
e) Continuing to focus on herbal assistance regarding mood and mental health, as well as daily multivitamin and probably should begin incorporating a calcium supplement since I’m going to be 35 soon and that’s when bone loss supposedly begins.
f) Incorporate regular meditation and deep breathing exercises.
g) Incorporate time with nature regularly.
h) Remain grateful and conscious.
i) Get Puggies/Kittehs to vet regularly (Bailey needs her teeth cleaned ASAP)
j) Pamper myself from time to time (pedicures, manicures, getting my hair did, new shoes/clothes, etc…)
k) Continue to focus on immune system improvements.

3) Hobbies
a) I really love to write, it is my passion and I must embrace it. Find a creative writing class!
b) Blog & Journaling.
c) Dance class: Belly, Zumba, African Beats.
d) Possibly something crafty, like knitting or crocheting.

4) Communications and Travel
a) Maintain better communications with friends and family from afar.
b) At least one visit out of state to see family.

5) Work Related
a) C# class (online or physical) & books
b) ASP.Net class (online or physical) & books
c) Software development best practices and guidelines research/documentation
d) Continue to build on SQL skills
e) Vacation one week in July, November, December 2011!

6) Financial
a) Save money each pay check.
b) Make larger payments on car/credit cards to pay off sooner.
c) Set aside funds for a bit of pampering from time to time.



This feels like a good start. I am going to book mark this entry and reference (and edit) as needed when I need a good reminder of what my priorities for myself are. I tend to get lost in what everyone else needs from me. Balancing giving and loving with remaining conscious of what my own needs and goals are going to be a priority for me this year. I’m looking forward to it!

Happy New Year!